Fambly.
It is what bwings me togevah today.
Fambly.
Dat bwessed Awwangement, that dweam wifin a dweam.
Sometimes I feel like "Kari the Babyschitter" in Jack Jack Attack! *twitch* *twitch* Other times I feel like everything is coming up roses. What is it today? The Chiclets aren't up yet.
Though last night Beansprout peed on a tree at the park. Who closes the park restrooms from Labor Day to Memorial Day? HUH? Apparently we do. Then at home he 'fessed that he lied and actually had an accident. SHOWER.
Miss THANG asked me for twenty things she knew I would say no to and held it against me for an hour. I swear this was before she'd even been out of school twenty minutes. Chickadee is eating again-thanks for the prayers and good thoughts-and we only missed one drink because she was sleeping.
I even called 3 doctors I've been meaning to along with the service coordinator for her 5 therapists. Two doctors were mine for a change. We've been eating dinners 5-6/7 nights a week. Which calls for a party if I weren't so tired.
My point is that i exercise and eat healthy for myself. But I also do those things for my family. And because of my family. To survive and thrive you might say. My question to you is this: are you exercising and eating healthy today because your family is driving you to it, or are you exercising and eating healthy for your family? Which one more?
I'm always blown away by the complexity of your wonderful family. Even under optimal circumstances, 3 young children provide plenty of work and endless custodial responsibility. Then having little Miss Chickadee with some special needs adds so much more. So glad to hear she's eating again.
ReplyDeleteKids can really make you nuts - the worries and concerns are the hard part. The laughs, utter ridiculousness and the immense sweetness makes it the best of all possible worlds. In my opinion. Even my three 20 somethings can stir me up. They always call when they, or their friends, are sick. "Mom, what should I do? Get? Take?" Translate - "I wish you were hear to give me some serious momming!" I still miss those days at times. And I know they still need me - even if more emotionally than any other way.
So I do it because of and for them. Mixed bag.
I admit that I am doing it for myself. Selfishly. I wish I could turn back the clock and have started a healthy lifestyle when my boys were young enough that it became part of their lives too.
ReplyDeleteFor my family. And I am hoping to inspire my parents on the long run. Sometimes they get excited about eating healthy for a day then it goes away. But if I can prove to them I keep losing weight, feeling healthy and more energized I believe it will affect them more.
ReplyDeleteI'm trying to lose weight, eat healthier and exercise for my son. He's special needs, he needs me around for a long time to come. I need to be able to take care of him, I need to teach him healthy eating and exercise. I do it for myself too, there are MANY medical problems that run in my family that I do NOT want to end up with. I have enough problems already without adding to them.
ReplyDeleteThe Princess Bride is one of my favorite movies.
ReplyDeleteWhat I do, I do for me. There really isn't any other family in my life--a sister and a brother, but no kids or husband. That makes it hard sometimes--I feel like no one cares anyway. But I care. So that makes a difference.
I don't think my family has anythign to do with it. My extended family (brothers, sisters, etc.) have never said a word to me whether skinny or chubby. And while my weight has been an issue between my husband and I (in the past pre-thyroid diagnosis he thought I was being lazy), I refused to lose weight just to spite him. Even to my own detriment, I can be stubborn like that. So now, I'd say I do it for myself. I both like myself better and feel better when I take good care.
ReplyDeleteMy family is sometimes irritated by my exercising. Especially when I get stinky-sweaty-smelly from doing my cardios.
ReplyDeleteBut I do it for them. And for me. But when I started it was ALL about them, because I couldn't run and play with my kids outside (barely could catch my breath). That was the worst.
I definitely do it for me...though the impetus to start was my son calling me fat...not in a hateful way, but just a matter a fact way that 5 yrs old have. I am now considered medium by my oldest, and one have "5 more inches of weight", son speak for 5 more pounds before skinnyland (his mind, not mine).
ReplyDeleteThe family is definitely reaping the health benefits, though. Better food is in the house, better thinking about food in the head, leads to better buys when Im out and less junk in their trunks and mine.
And JBS, I so love your humor, your warmth, and your determination to make yourself and your family happy and whole despite what some might think of as insurmountable challenges. You rock!
@Leslie-Someday I might miss them. Not today...but I can fathom that abstract concept. Hehe. I too cannot separate which is more motivating.
ReplyDelete@WaistingTime-Selfish is perhaps the longest lasting motivation. The truest one. The one that will survive almost any obstacle. Really. Keep going.
@River- They will all come around sometime. You just keep going and see it through. You will be a wonderful inspiration.
@Barbara- He will be taken care of. You will be better for it, and he will benefit from having you happier and healthier. And LESS STRESSED. You are the most important part of the equation. Easier for me to say to you than myself!
@kathyj333- I love Princess Bride. I could quote it for days. I care. Lots of people care.
@Helen- You are a slice of awesome . I love it. I also LOVE stubborn people.
@Yum Yucky- My family doesn't like it when I have more commitments in this health quest. But then they adapt like yours. Congrats on doing it and being able to breath!
@Holistic Health Coach-Tri Mom- Good for you! I do think we have a ripple effect around us, so we can live with them and they with us. But it starts with a deep self motivation. Which you DEFINITELY have. And thank you so much!
For myself. I am selfish like that. True my family will also benefit from my healthy lifestyle. I'll be around longer to drive them crazy!
ReplyDeleteI am so glad that your daughter is eating agin. I will continue to keep her and your family in my prayers.
Oh...the life of a mom...
ReplyDeleteExhausting, rewarding, crazy, yet fun.
Great job on getting dinner going so many nights. That's a tough one for me, since my husband works crazy hours and I have 2 teenagers. Some weeks are better than others...
I am exercising because I want to be able to encourage others along the way as well as serve my family. Not to mention...I think that exercising and eating well is a way that I can also serve the Lord!
ReplyDeleteExercise has been a bust for me the past 2 weeks. I've had tons of stuff going on every evening when I go the gym. So I'm going to try to get back on track this week.
ReplyDeleteGlad your daughter is eating again. I will pray for her today!
...prayer is definitely my thing:)
I am exercising and eating healthy because I need to. My family history is terrible and I want to be around for a long, long time to come. So I am doing it for me and the ones that love me. I also am trying to set a good example for my children.
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear your little one is doing some better.
You are an awesome mom! Initially I exercised all for me and my health. And to some extent I still do, but I also realize that I want to be healthy for them as well as for myself. Two great motivators!
ReplyDeleteI've been doing it for me...but if I'm able to give my family a push in the right direction, then that's awesome. We all need to lose overweight, especially my brothers, who are almost all terribly obese. I just gotta get past the lazy factor with them, and tell them World of Warcraft is not exercise :-P
ReplyDeleteI am exercising FOR my family! I want to be able to run and play and keep up with my kiddos... they are getting bigger and faster!!!
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post! :)
I don't have kids, but if I did, I'd like to think that I was taking care of me, for my own sake, because then I'd be modeling what I want them to do for their own sakes...does that make sense?
ReplyDeleteI believe those mothers who run themselves ragged and never do anything for themselves are teaching their daughters to put themselves last in their relationships, and their sons to look for women who will put them first...
In fact, I have a friend who never goes to the doctor and who has been rather sickly lately. She has a teen daughter...I asked her "do you want Liv to take care of herself and see the doctor when she's sick?" And she said "of course..." And *I* said, then you need to get yourself to the doctor!
Yeah, i have a hard time cutting back on salt, but today has been fairly low sodium. One day at a time. Hope your life chaos subsides before long.
ReplyDeleteYou are so my hero. You are so amazing and inspiring!
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